A Male Viewpoint

An e mail came in yesterday from a male friend and I am still laughing as it was meant as a joke and should be taken as one . . . but, on the other hand, if you think about it a little bit longer, it is not as funny as it is supposedly meant to be as a lot of males have this attitude about marriage.   Some where, along the line, they have turned sour on life and the person they should be the closest to. . . naturally we are all on our best behavior when we meet and date for the first time.   We both put on our best bib and tucker and set our minds to listen to the love bug as we choose our mate in life.    He is thinking she is 'hot', great body, great eyes, great smile, fun to be with.  She's thinking he is a handsome knight riding on his big white horse reading to sweep her off her feet and live happily ever after . . . fairy tales are like that.
Then comes marriage and the barriers of pride and prejudice are let down.   The little differences come out of hiding and show a bit of temper, a bit of tears, a bit of anger for the knight has fallen off his horse and has become 'a man' with all the foibles and all of the little idiosyncrasies he never showed while dating....she's his'woman' and she can do it all while he can relax and play king of his palace.    Now, at this point in their lives, they should be able to grow up and remember that it takes two to tango and each one should put a little more effort into being the persons they should be. . . 'get over it' would be a good motto. . . help one another. . . talk to each other . . . make love, not war and the ending might prove different.
The ending here in these pictures are typical of the outcome of a divorce....says who?   If you haven't been there you have no idea what lawyers can do.   Two people who truly loved and cared for each other come to a crossroad they cannot ford.  They forget to be civil, to be caring and greed and avarice take over . . . love is gone;  things are more important so they think;  each one trying to hurt the other . . . a very sad time of life for both leaving a feeling of inadequacy;  lost pride; failure; stupidity and a hunger for the love they so badly need in their own lives.  Frank Sinatra can sing about "a second time around" and make it sound like it is as it should be, but within the heart is the first love, the lost love of what could have been, should have been and they could have, should have 'lived happily ever after.'

Yeah, pictures do speak a thousand words.     I hope if you are married you will give some thought to your own behavior with your partner.    It does take two giving and loving each other equally . . . none of this eighty percent opposed to twenty percent.....go fifty, fifty and make your marriage work.  Get rid of the selfishness, the greed, the wants and take good care of the needs.    Both need to know that 'love' is forever warts and all.      Kind words, helping hands, much love and laughter and it is all yours to have and to hold and keep safe in your hearts.     Work at it. . . and enjoy the moments.   Hugs to all.